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Vaginal Cuff and Sex

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Tara39
Vaginal Cuff and Sex

Hi, 

I recently had a radical hysterectomy including ovaries after being diagnosed with Adenocarcanoma stage 1b1. 
I'm 39 and although I don't currently have a partner I'm and not wanting sex at the moment anyway, I'm worried about having sex in the future due to the vaginal cuff. What if sex tears it? Do you have to do things differently?

I guess I'm hoping for too much for things to ever be 'normal' again! I'm already trying to cope with the decision of children having been taken away from me! 

FeelingTheFear

Hi Tara 

I had RH last year (kept my ovaries) and it hasn't really changed anything about my sex life, although my orgasms are a bit different. Of course we were nervous/cautious/gentle for the first few weeks. I felt more confident after my 4mth check up when the dr confirmed everything had healed well. I think everybody is different, but from my experience, my sex life hasn't been affected by my surgery. 

I don't know when you had your surgery but although I was getting better week by week, it wasn't until after 6 or 7 months I started to feel more like my old self again. It just takes time xxx

Feb 2020: smear = high grade dyskariosis

March 2020: biopsy = CIN3

April 2020: lletz = cervical cancer stage 1b1 (1b2 on new FIGO)

May 2020: radical hysterectomy and lymphadenectomy. NED!

September 2020: first follow up. NED!

Tara39

Hi, 

thanks for your reply, I'm 3 weeks post op so very early. Right now I feel anything but normal. It's good to hear that further down the line I might not feel so scared about being intimate with someone. Slow process I guess xx

FeelingTheFear

Hi Tara,

Still really early days for you, I still wasn't able to get out of bed without help at 3wks post surgery! I definitely think you've every right to hope for things to be normal again. I can remember reading that "it can take up to 6mth to fully recover and have days where you don't think about cancer or the surgery", and thinking at that time, I cannot foresee any time where I will go a whole day without thinking about it, or not needing painkillers, or feeling "like everyone else". Little by little, I find that -somehow- I am getting there. You've had a really traumatic experience, physically and emotionally, so take it easy on yourself, give it time, and hold on to that hope for happier healthier (and sexier) days ahead xxx

Feb 2020: smear = high grade dyskariosis

March 2020: biopsy = CIN3

April 2020: lletz = cervical cancer stage 1b1 (1b2 on new FIGO)

May 2020: radical hysterectomy and lymphadenectomy. NED!

September 2020: first follow up. NED!

Tara39

I had mine via robotic surgery so I guess on the outside the recovery time is quicker but on the inside (mentally and physically) I have a long way to go. 
I currently can't think about it without breaking down but hoping that will pass with time also. 
This site has helped so much. My friends and family have been amazing but no one will ever quite understand so talking to people who have been through the same experiences and feelings has helped no end xxx

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