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RESPONSE FROM EMPLOYER AFTER DIAGNOSIS

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haylesd
RESPONSE FROM EMPLOYER AFTER DIAGNOSIS

Hi all,

After my diagnosis on Friday I was actually feeling quite good about everything. Ive had a few days where I was quite pleased that in my eyes  had been given a good diagonoses when it could have been so much worse. I know that its not all over yet and I still have a little jouney to go on but I was feeling good and very positive.

My husband, daughter, family and friends have been fantastic. However, I have come into work today and explained the situation and that I will be needing time off work and I have been met with the most disgusting response from my boss. 

The first thing she wanted was a letter confiming my digasnosis and then wanted another one to confirm what date had been booked and wanted to know how long I was taking off work because she will need to get someone in to cover my job. There was no empathy or compassion from her at all. I have worked for this global company for over 2 years and never had any issues.

This has made me feel like she either doesnt beleive me or that im bad for tkaing time off. I tried to explain that at the moment I am waiting for another appointment to see the consultant to go through things in more depth so I dont have any letters. Her response, " you need to get one, we need to refer you to ocupationl heath because your taking an extended period of time off"

Can someone tell me who I get a letter from to give to my employer! How long will i need off work? 

Sorry for the long post..

xx

 

  • 5 June 19 - smear
  • 15 July - High grade dyskaryosis/?invasive carcinoma 
  • 23 July - colposcopy, LLETZ biopsy taken
  • Appointment booked with a consultant on 6th September to discuss results and 2nd LLETZ booked for same day 
  • Stage 1A2 confirmed, unclear margins on biopsy. Unable to perform 2nd LLETZ due to alot of cervix being taken away on previous biopsy.Hysterectomy booked for 15th October
Lotty9000

OMG!!! That’s a disgraceful way to behave! How unsupportive and unsympathetic. 

Speak to your HR and occupational health department yourself. HR will give you clear guidance on your rights. 

Im so sorry that you are having this grief at work, this is not what you need. 

xxxx

11th March 2019- 1st ever abnormal smear. (Never missed a smear)

1st May 2019 - Colposcopy with LLETZ

9th May 2019 - diagnosis ?1B Villoglandular adenocarcinoma 

22nd and 23rd May 2019 - MRI/CT

29th May - MDT meeting. MRI/CT clear. Amount of tumour 1A stage.

13th June 2nd LLETZ with top hat procedure 

3rd July Confirmed staging 1A1, clear margins on 2nd LLETZ. Scheduled for laparoscopic hysterectomy, keeping ovaries.

29/8/19 Total Laproscopic hysterectomy with ovarian conservation.

Awaiting final pathology results 

Flower Power

Disgraceful !!!    Report her to your HR Department if she is your manager she has a duty of care to adhere to towards her staff, clearly there has not been shown in the discussion that you have had with her.  Your HR department will give you more help and understanding of the company procedures in these circumtances.   If you do require written confirmation of your illness your own doctor will supply this.

Flower Power

Petesdragon
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This happened to me more than twenty years ago. I asked my manager how long I was entitled to be on sick leave and she replied "look it up yourself, it's in.your contract". A lot of people heard this and were disgusted. However I simply accepted that here was a person who lacked the strategies to deal with bad news. It sounds like the same in your case if you have not had an issue before. I would hold your head up high and acknowledge she is the problem not you. I think you will find she will soften when she has had time to process it all.

Karen x 

    • Stage 3 Glassy cell adenocarcinoma  1997 (negative smear tests).

Treated with Wertheim's hysterectomy, chemorads.

October 2017- new squamous cell vaginal tumour diagnosed,  probably radiation-induced. 

Total pelvic exenteration on 19th December 2017. 

March 18 Post-op CT scan shows healthy kidneys and successful urostomy and colostomy. No evidence of recurrence. Discharged by urology and colorectal surgeons. 2 down and 2 to go!

June 2018. CT scan shows 2 new pulmonary nodules.  

CT Scan Jan 2019. Nodules gone. No evidence of disease. 

Weepingwillow
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Hi

I am sorry your dealing with this and it sadly doesn’t seem uncommon. At diagnosis my specialist nurse gave me a 3 month sick note (I fortunately didn’t need any additional time more than this) or the GP could give you a note. I’m certain that this note should suffice as it will clearly detail your diagnosis and you can then decide once the note expires if you need more time. I’m sure any employer would struggle to dismiss or cause problems for anyone with a cancer diagnosis and agree with Karen the problem does seem to be with her and it will hopefully resolve. You will also be allowed time off in a the future for follow up appointments etc and occupational health would need to consider any adaptions in the worse place if necessary. My employers started of great at the beginning but have become less tolerant with follows up and time off so I have tended to use my own time in lieu or holidays and understand your frustration. Good luck for your treatment x

G22

Oh no ;-(

hugs 

 

I’d see your GP. Your GP is the person who can best support you and write something pre you needing a sick note.

Keep positive.

MrsMcDee

What a horrendous attitude. I would take off as long as you need and can afford. You're simply a number and health and family come first. Abhorrent! Some people lack humanity. Sending you positive vibes...dont let the attitude of one change your positive mindset xx

Borderline changes Jan 19

Moderate/severe dyskaryosis Jul 19

Colposcopy Aug 19 -no abnormality visible. Biopsy taken.

End Aug 19 pre cancerous cells. Awaiting treatment information.

LLETZ performed 10/9/19 - awaiting results

haylesd

Thank you every one! I have spoken to our contract manager who is my bosses manager. To put it lightly he couldnt apologise enough. He said i should have been spoken to in such a manner and that I am to take as much time as I need after the operation. Something I intend on doing now.

Thank you for your support on this. xx

 

  • 5 June 19 - smear
  • 15 July - High grade dyskaryosis/?invasive carcinoma 
  • 23 July - colposcopy, LLETZ biopsy taken
  • Appointment booked with a consultant on 6th September to discuss results and 2nd LLETZ booked for same day 
  • Stage 1A2 confirmed, unclear margins on biopsy. Unable to perform 2nd LLETZ due to alot of cervix being taken away on previous biopsy.Hysterectomy booked for 15th October

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