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Dilator and sexual intercourse

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Maria87
Dilator and sexual intercourse

Hi Ladies,

I diagnosed with CC 2b and I completed the treatment 6 months ago. I am using the bigger size dilator 3 times per week and following the treatment I tried to start having sex with my partner. I thought that since I am using the larger dilator I will not have any anatomic issues during the intercourse. However, i feel that it is so tight down there that it makes it very difficult to have any kind of penetration and also it is very uncomfortable. Also I think that I have PTSD pre treatment as I was bleeding a lot during sex and now I am afraid that I will start bleeding again which makes me very anxious. Please could you let me know how long it took you post treatment to have sexual intercourse and give me some reassurance that it will be fine afterwards?  I know that I should be glad that I completed treatment but I am only 34 years old and I cannot imagine not having sex for the rest of my life. 

  • Jul 20 - irregular bleeding and bleeding after sex, smear test done, last test 3 years ago and it was normal same as previous ones
  • Aug 20 severe bleeding after smear went to A&E, told me they can see a lymph, prescribe medication to stop bleeding, examine by Gynecologist and and took sample for biopsy, told me that is cancer
  • Aug 20, MRI, PET scan shows adenocarcinoma, biopsy results confirmed grade 1 stage 2A, referred to oncologist surgeon, smear test results positive
  • Sept 20 - EUA, now stage 2B with no node involved surgery no an option
  • Oct - Nov 20, 5 chemo, 28 radiation, 3 brachytherapy, 
  • Feb 21 MRI, CT scan booked for assessment 
slicknic

I had a very similar experience. I would recommend a physical therapist if you have that option. They help a lot. Also, make sure you're not just putting the dialator in and leaving it there. You need to twist it around and push it in and out - to cause some healthy trauma and 'toughen up' your cervix. If you go from a dialator just sitting there to sex it can be rough. I bled so much trying to have sex after treatment it looked like a crime scene! I also use vaginal estrogen pills and that helped as well as it makes the skin less likely to break and bleed. 
And go slow. Try intercourse for a bit. Use lots of lube. Stop when you feel like you've had enough. It took me about 1.5 years before the bleeding stopped and another year after that before sex wasn't painful. But I didn't start trying to deal with these issues until more than a year after treatment as I thought they'd go away on their own. 
Good luck, and feel free to message me if you want to talk more!