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Decisions, adoption, surrogacy?

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Decisions, adoption, surrogacy?

So I've never been bothered about having children, I thought about it years ago but my ex was adamant he didn't want them. Then I was diagnosed and my life changed. Now I'm 37, friends all had/having children and I feel I'm missing out. 

Had an offer of surrogacy (their egg as mine damaged by radio) and thought about adoption as have friend who has recently adopted a baby age six months. 

Really feel that time is ticking on and do I try with one of the options as I feel I'll regret it in ten years, or do I carry on as I am? Really finding it an emotional rollercoaster right now. 

Thank you in advance. X

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i think if youve been thinking about it so much, then there is no harm in researching each option further. 

if you pursue surrogacy then you or your partner need to be genetically related to the baby. if youre a single person pursuing surrogacy then you will need to use your own eggs. are you totally unable to make embryos with your own eggs? going down the surrogacy route also requires quite a huge amount of money.

im unable to give any advice regarding adoption but from what ive heard from others, its not always possible to adopt a baby (as they are usually preferred).

research as much as you can and weigh up the pros and cons of both.

good luck xxx

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