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New relationships and HPV

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Shaz123
New relationships and HPV

Hey ladies,

 

just wondering how have you brought up HPV to new relationships? I'm really hesitant even going into a new relationship because I have to talk about this to them and have no idea how they'd react to it. Just wondering what was your experience been when telling new partners?

 

reluctantly,

S

Klaw36

Hi Shaz,

I really don't have personal experience here as my Hpv and subsequent diagnosis was all with my now husband. But what I will say is if you tell any new partner and they run for the hills....it's their loss and you deserve better! 

If I was going to be having this conversation I would perhaps have some easy to understand research to hand for you to give to them. I would probably allow for an initial negative reaction because it's human nature but only to a certain degree. Just ask that they read the research first before making a decision/judgement.

Good luck XXX 

Wilms tumour, full left nephrectomy and chemo 1991. Full remission 1993

Abnormal smear, HPV detected 29.01.19

Colposcopy 18.02.19

Lletz procedure and biospy 11.03.19

CC diagnosis 21.03.19 Adenocarcinoma Stage 1 

25.04.19 Further Lletz and laprascopic lymphadenectomy

October 2019 - NED :) 

Shaz123

@klaw36

thanks so much for that advice I'll get some easy to digest info ready. That chat is so daunting, it's putting me off dating altogether, but I keep telling myself 80%of people would of had it during their life span. Still, the talk and possible rejection or labeling really gives me anxiety! 

thanks again for the advice :) really appreciate it 

 

55

Jo's trust have small leaflets you can order which describe it really well. They are also free - which is always a bonus! If you look in the shop on the website you will find them there. There is also a really good explanation in the book The Gynae Geek by Anita Sumtra (I may have got her name wrong). Chances are the person you will be talking will already have had HPV or has it but there isn't a test for men. Although I have read about men being diagnosed with HPV if they have head neck or throat cancer - I think they take a swab of their throat/the affected area to test. Maybe dentists should start to routinely test all patients - male and female and then more people generally would know their hpv status. Remember 80% of people have it. I know what you mean though about it being a difficult conversation. 

A

Abnormal smear hpv & severe high grade dyskaryosis lletz Sept 2019 polyp & nabothian cyst. Results hpv & mild cell changes polyp innocent Repeat colposcopy Dec 2019 test of cure January 2020 no high risk HPV present , colposcopy June because of discrepancy between initial smear & lletz- June 2020 colposcopy  all clear; next smear in 3 yrs August 2020 post menopausal bleed; TV scan; bleed hrt related & found small ovarian cyst said will check in 4 months; Letter from hospital saying no longer needed 4 month check as cyst under 2cm & contact them if I develop pain (if cyst bursts?)

Shaz123

Hey 55,

this is brilliant - thanks so much for letting me know about the leaflets. There's so much info out there, it's comforting getting the right information from one source. I'll have to have a hunt for that book.

 

thanks so much again! 

55

You're welcome!!! Hope it works out for you xxx

Abnormal smear hpv & severe high grade dyskaryosis lletz Sept 2019 polyp & nabothian cyst. Results hpv & mild cell changes polyp innocent Repeat colposcopy Dec 2019 test of cure January 2020 no high risk HPV present , colposcopy June because of discrepancy between initial smear & lletz- June 2020 colposcopy  all clear; next smear in 3 yrs August 2020 post menopausal bleed; TV scan; bleed hrt related & found small ovarian cyst said will check in 4 months; Letter from hospital saying no longer needed 4 month check as cyst under 2cm & contact them if I develop pain (if cyst bursts?)

springseason

Hi Shaz123, I just found out 5 days ago that I am having HPV high-risk virus with LSIL and I am still single and dating one man. Very sad and anxious to tell him about it.

I feel sad in the future  I might be alone forever, as there is no man will want to get the virus.

In the same time I am afraid and  scared to get the coming colposcopy and  I  have no  support from anyone. My family & best friend is at overseas.

Can you share your experience with colposcopy? Was it painful?

 

Thank you...

 

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