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New relationships and HPV

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Shaz123
New relationships and HPV

Hey ladies,

 

just wondering how have you brought up HPV to new relationships? I'm really hesitant even going into a new relationship because I have to talk about this to them and have no idea how they'd react to it. Just wondering what was your experience been when telling new partners?

 

reluctantly,

S

Klaw36

Hi Shaz,

I really don't have personal experience here as my Hpv and subsequent diagnosis was all with my now husband. But what I will say is if you tell any new partner and they run for the hills....it's their loss and you deserve better! 

If I was going to be having this conversation I would perhaps have some easy to understand research to hand for you to give to them. I would probably allow for an initial negative reaction because it's human nature but only to a certain degree. Just ask that they read the research first before making a decision/judgement.

Good luck XXX 

Wilms tumour, full left nephrectomy and chemo 1991. Full remission 1993

Abnormal smear, HPV detected 29.01.19

Colposcopy 18.02.19

Lletz procedure and biospy 11.03.19

CC diagnosis 21.03.19 Adenocarcinoma Stage 1 

25.04.19 Further Lletz and laprascopic lymphadenectomy

October 2019 - NED :) 

Shaz123

@klaw36

thanks so much for that advice I'll get some easy to digest info ready. That chat is so daunting, it's putting me off dating altogether, but I keep telling myself 80%of people would of had it during their life span. Still, the talk and possible rejection or labeling really gives me anxiety! 

thanks again for the advice :) really appreciate it 

 

55

Jo's trust have small leaflets you can order which describe it really well. They are also free - which is always a bonus! If you look in the shop on the website you will find them there. There is also a really good explanation in the book The Gynae Geek by Anita Sumtra (I may have got her name wrong). Chances are the person you will be talking will already have had HPV or has it but there isn't a test for men. Although I have read about men being diagnosed with HPV if they have head neck or throat cancer - I think they take a swab of their throat/the affected area to test. Maybe dentists should start to routinely test all patients - male and female and then more people generally would know their hpv status. Remember 80% of people have it. I know what you mean though about it being a difficult conversation. 

A

1st ever abnormal smear hpv & severe high grade dyskaryosis August 2019 lletz September 2019 polyp & nabothian cyst found Results hpv & mild cell changes polyp innocent Repeat colposcopy Dec 2019 test of cure January 2020 results of test of cure; no high risk HPV present , check up colposcopy appointment in June because of the discrepancy between initial smear & lletz result - June 2020 repeat colposcopy & pap - all clear - discharged from hospital - next smear in 3 yrs Back again August 2020 following post menopausal bleed; more tests! Turned out to be hormonal/menopause related but they also discovered a small ovarian cyst which they will check again in 4 months; cyst was not related to bleeding

Shaz123

Hey 55,

this is brilliant - thanks so much for letting me know about the leaflets. There's so much info out there, it's comforting getting the right information from one source. I'll have to have a hunt for that book.

 

thanks so much again! 

55

You're welcome!!! Hope it works out for you xxx

1st ever abnormal smear hpv & severe high grade dyskaryosis August 2019 lletz September 2019 polyp & nabothian cyst found Results hpv & mild cell changes polyp innocent Repeat colposcopy Dec 2019 test of cure January 2020 results of test of cure; no high risk HPV present , check up colposcopy appointment in June because of the discrepancy between initial smear & lletz result - June 2020 repeat colposcopy & pap - all clear - discharged from hospital - next smear in 3 yrs Back again August 2020 following post menopausal bleed; more tests! Turned out to be hormonal/menopause related but they also discovered a small ovarian cyst which they will check again in 4 months; cyst was not related to bleeding

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