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Hi, I have had CC twice before. Last diagnosis was in 2015 of tage 1A1, and I've had 6mthly smears since then which have been all clear. Since my husband and I were still trying for a baby I had cone biopsies only and did not get a hysterectomy.
Last week a ultrasound showed I have a lesion on my cervix. I need surgery in 2 weeks to get it biopsied. Of course I am really worried it has come back, and it is the natural thing to think since I have had it twice before.
The reactions of my friends and husband have really made me mad. First my husband (who I am seperated from), didn't even reply to my message when I told him. When I wrote back saying what a heartless jerk he is, he sent a mean message back saying I didn't know if I have cancer yet and "go get it biopsied for goodness sake" before I start calling it cancer. In other words no compassion or recognition of the fact I have it twice before and naturally would be feeling a lot of fear.
First long time friend I told who also knows all about my past cancer battles, just said "sorry to hear and God got you through last time, He will again". He might have not meant any harm, but it seemed really flippant and glib to me. Like, again, why would he not acknowledge how scary this must be for me, and how serious it could be?
Then other friend just went on and on about her daughter who had CIN3 and when she went back to the Dr it had magically dissapeared. I've told her several times, I had invasive cancer before, not just CIN3, but she won't listen and also minimises what I am facing.
Finally last friend also minimised it and because she worked in a hospital for a long time as a medical coder, claims 95% of cancer tests come back benign. Um, hello, I think its a bit different when you have had it twice in the same place before, and also already had a second reoccurance and you just got told you have a new lesion??
I just feel so mad at them all. Like no one really gives a crap and everyone is acting like I just need a mole removed.
No one has empathised with how serious this could be, or how scared I must be, they all just minimise it as if its no big deal. It makes me feel worthless and angry. Like I want to slap them for their callousness and lack of care.