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Sex has become a chore !!!

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Sex has become a chore !!!

Is it just me or does other women feel like sex has become more like a chore that u just need to get it over and done with rather than something you enjoy after treatment ???, i seem to find myself more upset after been intamate than anything else because im constantly anxious incase he hurts me , im a yr in and it isnt getting any easier , melissa x x


I don’t have cervical cancer but I’ve had two leeps for CIN3 cells and my sex drive is completely gone. I totally relate with the anxiety of if it will hurt or not. The whole experience just makes me want to avoid it all together. I’m sorry you’re dealing with it too and I hope that it gets better for the both of us! 

HSIL pap 2017

LEEP 1  August 2018 with HSIL CIN 3 carcinoma with unclear margins

PAP on follow up found HSIL CIN3 

LEEP 2 February 2019

PAP 9/11/2019- HSIL and currently waiting for third LEEP


I am awaiting diagnosis but have had discomfort and pain for ages. I last had sex with my partner in April 2016! I find it incredibly upsetting as I used to enjoy sex and had we had a good sex life but apart from heavy petting it is non-existent.  And all this puts strain on relationships. But I am actually dreading the next time as I had the most awful attempted hysteroscopy experience recently and it's bloody traumatised me - I don't want anyone to go down that area again tbh... all the best to you and everyone else x


I no what your saying girls , its like its an obstacle in my own head and im dreading it before it even begins , but i have to say lube has been my best friend and has helped me endure it alot more than i would if i didn have it , so please got it gets easier for us ❤ x x

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Sex is off the menu for me - works for me.  Anyway, just a thought: I wonder if using a female condom would make things easier?



  • Feb 04:  (age 47y) Smear test normal
  • Stopped going for smears!
  • Summer 16: persistent watery yellow vaginal discharge
  • Dec 16: PMB
  • Jan 17: Hysteroscopy under GA for ?fibroids - abnormal cervix observed -multiple biopsies taken, 1B1 (1B2 on new FIGO) squamous cell cc diagnosed - confirmed by MRI/PET scans
  • Feb 17: pelvic lymphadenectomy - nodes negative, Da Vinci radical hysterectomy- close anterior margin/LVSI/PNI, restaged to 2A1 (2A1 on new FIGO)
  • Apr/May 17: 6 chemo, 25 external radio, 2 brachy
  • May 20:  NED.  Side effects notably hypotonic bladder since hysterectomy - ongoing ISC, unilateral lymphoedema lower abdo/groin/leg/ankle/foot

It is important for a relationship and I believe should enjoy it. I suggest you consult your OB-GYN if what you are feeling is normal.

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